One Day of Happiness vs a Life of Misery

April 5, 2011

  

Photo and jewelry from my friend Lori Magno

Someday you’re going to fall in love, or in most cases think you’ve fallen in love.  You’ll get this feeling of nervousness, sleeplessness and overall giddiness that takes over you’re body, thoughts and emotions.  

Falling in love isn’t something you can plan or hope for, it just happens.  You’ll meet a ton of people in your life that you will say you love and in some cases you’ll really be in love.  You’ll learn the hard way though.  You’ll want to spend the rest of your life with all of them and you’ll cry a lot of tears over them. 

As you grow, go out and love everyone.  Love them to death.  Cherish them.  Treat them like they are the only thing that matters because they should be the only thing that matters.  Love unconditionally and live in the moment.  No one wins by sitting around wondering what if.  But you only really learn when you try things, when you give all of yourself to it and when you learn from failures. 

I’ve loved many in my life and lost just as many.  After each loss, they hurt in its own special way.  I would think about the good times and wonder if there was anything else I could’ve done. But after the scars heal and the memories become more distant, you remember that you’ve grown from that experience and that without it, you wouldn’t be as strong as you are today. 

If you live your life protected and always in defense, you’ll miss the little things.  You’ll miss the gift of a good morning kiss, the warmth when walking in the sun hand in hand without saying a word to each other but still communicating, the glance from across the room that says “I’m thinking of you”, all that wouldn’t happen if you don’t let yourself be willing to get hurt. 

Love is like life, you will achieve periods of success and failures, it goes up just as quickly as it goes down.  When it’s up, don’t take it for granted, cherish what you have and never underestimate it, because it can end in a blink of an eye.  So instead, smile, take a breath and enjoy the ride.  When it fails, mourn for a bit, it’s natural, but then muster the energy to get back up.  Because the getting up is the magic.  It takes strength to get up.  That’s the test.  How strong are you?  Love hurts and is very cruel sometimes, it does the unexplainable and never answers to its own actions.  But when it gives you its’ gift…That’s when you hold on for as tight as you can and try not to fall off because the second you let go, you’ll fall.  So go out and fall in love, hold on, fall off, get up and do it again.  With enough practice you’ll get the hang of it and never fall off.  Because one day letting yourself fall in love is so much better than a lifetime of misery.  And that’s what love is…